Triggers

Have you ever been doing something: driving in your car, cleaning the house, at work, doing yard work....... just going on about your every day business and suddenly something triggers your memory?

Of course you have, everyone has. That certain smell, song, pict, or a favorit saying, a special spot you use to go to.

And of course it always hits you at the most odd times. Sometimes making you sad (depending on the memory it brings) But the good ones, the ones that make you smile from ear to ear. Those are the best.

Like a first kiss and how your bodies both trembled when you met for the first time.
Or the first time you first talked on the phone and giggled like school kids.

Or when a certain scent fills the air and you remember how it felt to have your face buried in his chest as his arms were wrapped around you, and you are holding on for dear life not wanting to let go. You can feel his chin on your head. Then you look up and feel his kiss on your forehead.

No matter how long ago or recent those memories may be they always seem to creep up on you.

Crash

I was at work the other day trying to redo my Statement of Ownerships for the numerous papers we publish and before I knew it my chair just snappe in half and I found myself face first in the create of Newsprint.

My neck hurt and my ribs felt bruised. I couldnt help but laugh my ass off because it was funnier then hell!

But Im paying for it now. My back and the right side of my body is sore and Im sure it is bruised up by now, I haven't actually checked.

And my neck feels like I have whip lash.

I have this pain that goes from the lower part of my neck up through the middle of my head but I'm not sure if that is from having a head each which in turn could be becuase of the crash.

It's always something with me. If Im not falling on ice or tripping over my feet, or even falling off the top step into the bushes I can't even managed to stay seating in my chair at work!

Go ahead Laugh it up........ what goes around comes around!

Parenting

I was debating on weather or not I should Blog about this, but isn't that what blogs are for? To write down what happens or how you feel, to inform.

To me Blogging is an Online diary that you allow everyone to view. That thought is a little unsettling sometimes.

Anyways, I was talking today to someone I care about and look up to. Someone who has always made me smile and laugh when everything else in my life brought me down. I thought he knew me pretty well. And would have known I love children and know my situation in that field.

Granted I have no children of my own right now, and who knows if I ever will. But it is not from lack of interest in wanting them but for medical reasons why I dont have them now.

We got into a conversation about playing out in the snow, building snow forts and castles and making snow angels and snowmen. He made a comment that he hasn't done any of that since he was in his teens, which is kinda sad. But he does have a child and I mentioned to him about not doing any of these things with his son and he said no that he doesnt play out in the snow. A few things were said as to why he doesn't play in the snow. I in turn gave an opinion as to why I thought his child felt this way. In no way was I putting him down or trying to tell him how to raise his child. Just simply and observation and common sense which Im sure anyone with or without a child would put together.

Whether it was in playing or him meaning what he said, the words that came out of his mouth did hurt. And me being how I am, refused to show him and let him know that what he said did hurt me alot.

To paraphrase what he said was basically that I didn't have any children so who was I to tell him how to raise his child. And when I have a child then I can give him advice.

Now why is it that some people feel that because you don't have children, that you haven't a clue as to how to raise them or that you would have no clue as to how to handle them or even know what to do with them. It's always something like: You wouldn't understand you don't have any children or how could you possible know you dont have children.

You know just because you do have a child doesn't mean that you have all the answers and have the market cornered on parenthood.

Believe me, I know plenty of parents that haven't a clue and don't care and it shows in their children. So you tell me, is possible I wouldn't or couldn't do a better job???

You can ask any of my friends how I am with children and they will all tell you that I would be a good parent.

As a matter of fact........there are many cases where trying to be too good of a parent doesnt help the child in the least. No one wants to see their child hurt or see them have any troubles but you know what, that is life. And that is how most of us learned how to live and survive because face it.......the world is not a perfect place and to have your child live in this big fantasy world that everything is all fine and dandy will only hurt them in the end. Not saying you have to be harsh with them but let them learn that they cant get everything they want all the time, that no - life isn't fair. But that not matter what happens and what they choose to do you will always love them and support them.

So no - I don't have children and I haven't got a clue as to how to raise them. But I do have a good idea as to what is wrong and right, and have the descent values that if I did have a child I would want them to know and learn and I have enough love to give and for me that is all that really matters.

Let's Talk About Sex

My Friend Danny and I were talk today during lunch break. As much as we talk about alot of different topics it always seems to some how come around to sex talk.

Todays topic was '"Power Tools" or "Toys" and masturbation.

Unlike most women I seem to have an overly active high sex drive.

So when this topic came up I had to bring the question up to see what a typical guys answer would be (Which I already knew) but being with my husband up for over 10 years, up until recently, I was kinda starting to second guess myself.

So the question I posed was this: Say you were laying in bed with your GF, Wife, Significant other etc and you noticed she was starting to play with herself. What would you do? How would you feel?

Most would say maybe watch for a bit then when you couldn't take it any longer join in, right?That's what I thought. Well for me I wasnt so lucky. As long as I didnt bother my husband for any pleasurable tasks he was happy. So I had to turn my my toys.

Which in turn lead to another question. Well maybe not so much of a question as a statement Danny made.

He said that if he was to see his gf masturbating that it would definitely turn him on and it wouldnt take hime long to get aroused. And in turn he would definitely have to participate in her fun. But then he made a comment that he might be slightly intimidated by her using the toy.

In asking why he would be intimidated, he mentioned that the toy will never get tired and will keep going and going and going. So what would make her just turn to her toy and not want to have anything to do with him?

So Guys...... Is it intimidating for you?
And Girls if you had a guy who wanted to take care of you sexually and you did have a toy would you end up turning to you toy more? I think not, but that is just me.

I think Incorporating both together is extrememly exciting and fun and can make things last even longer!

Then the question of size was brought up. I told Danny that size doesnt really matter as long as the guy knows what he is doing. But he was arguing with me that size does matter. He said he never heard a female tell him that they wished he was smaller.

Well Hello....we arent' going to say we want smaller. But just because you are big -- if you dont know how to use it then what does it matter????

So another question is...... Does size really matter?